Grief, Anxiety and Trauma Therapy for Adults Across New York
I am a licensed psychotherapist providing virtual care across New York State. I do not have a physical office – we meet exclusively through confidential telehealth.
It feels like your mind never fully turns off.
You go back and forth on decisions, worried you’ll get it wrong. You replay conversations, wondering if you said too much, and then cringe and obsess over the overshare.
On the outside, your life might look great. Work, relationships, family, all the parts seem to be in place.
But internally, it’s a constant buzz of overthinking, second-guessing, bracing for what might go wrong and endless waiting for the other shoe to drop.
You tell yourself to relax, and have even done the things you’re supposed to, but sleep continues to feel elusive and your chest, shoulders, and jaw always feel so tight. The more you try to push it all away, the louder it gets.
It’s humbling and embarrassing – shouldn’t you be able to handle this by now?
You feel trapped doing the same thing over and over.
Maybe you find yourself shutting down in conversations you’d prefer to stay present for, or pulling away from people you care about, and you’re not sure why.
You’re noticing you stay in situations that don’t feel good, despite knowing you’re doing yourself harm.
Conflict feels terrifying, and you’re often overwhelmed or confused by your emotions. Setting boundaries always feels bad, telling people “no” feels impossible, and it’s easy to spiral around feeling like you can’t stick up for yourself.
Sometimes it’s clear what’s happened, and you keep it to yourself.
Don’t think about it, let it pass, time will help it move along as you get older and grow up.
Maybe it helps to put it in “perspective”, and minimize what happened.
“It wasn’t that bad.”
“Other people have been through worse.”
But your body doesn’t seem to agree.
You want to be open about your issues, but you feel like such a burden that you end up just keeping it all to yourself.
Life keeps moving forward, but the pain still seems to lurk.
You thought it would get easier by now, since time is supposed to heal all wounds.
Instead, it shows up in waves you didn’t expect.
Blindsided by dates, songs, places, smells. Remembering things, making sure to not forget the details but still unable to find a balance.
Grief shows up in complicated waves, and doesn’t always look like sadness. Some days are angry, or numb. Disconnected, irritable, guilty.
So much has changed, yet you instantly can be transported back to that same emotional spot.
It feels like you’re right back at square one, and it’s never going to get better.
Some losses are fundamentally misunderstood.
You didn’t just lose a person. You lost your sibling.
Someone who shared your history, and knew you and your family the way no one else can. Someone who was crucial to how you understand yourself.
It can feel like you haven’t “earned” the right to be as sad as your parents. Or that you have to be the “strong one” for them, since losing a child is so incredibly painful. Family dynamics have permanently shifted, the ground beneath your feet has completely changed, and it feels impossible to define how to be a family again.
No one asks how you are. People avoid talking about it, worried they will make you sadder, or say the wrong thing, but it would be so wonderful if someone did check in. You don’t get to talk about them, and it’s scary to think memories are fading.
You go through your days, and the feelings ebb and flow. You manage a lot of them on your own, as best you can, not wanting to burden friends, or make your family sad again.
The hardest part: life keeps going—but the version of you that existed with them is gone.
Some losses are dismissed as “part of the job”.
I see you out there, “healthcare heroes”. As a professional healer and helper, you’ve learned how to keep going.
You show up, fully present, for patients, clients, and their families. And then have to shift to the next person, and the next. Carry all of the emotional experiences, carry your own emotional experiences. You’ve worked on boundaries, and a lot of the time, you can let it go. It’s “what you signed up for” when you picked this career.
But some losses don’t leave. They stick, and over time, they build.
Is it burnout? Or is it grief that’s never been acknowledged, let alone processed? Or emotional exhaustion, and a nervous system that never gets a chance to soothe?
We all are taught about how your body holds it all. You’re feeling numb or disconnected, maybe snapping at your partner, kids, or friends. Withdrawing because you’re so tired, and not enjoying things you once loved. Sometimes, you’ll even question your field, your work, or your purpose.
And not knowing where to put any of it.
Some losses feel like shifts instead of shatters, but you still can’t find your footing again.
Maybe it’s a breakup. A career change. An epiphany about identity, or sexuality. Disentangling a relationship with drinking, or substances, and having some feelings about it.
You’re not where you used to be, but not quite where you’d like to be, either.
That in-between space feels disorienting, and can be paralyzing if you can’t see your next steps.
A way forward is possible. This is where therapy can actually feel different.
I offer anxiety therapy, trauma therapy, and grief therapy for adults across New York State, working virtually through secure telehealth.
I specialize in working with thoughtful, self-aware people who already understand themselves, but still feel stuck.
We’ll move beyond insight, and get to real emotional change. Let’s figure out ways to respond differently, not just think differently, and reconnect with your sense of self. We’ll understand patterns that are repeating, name them, and let them go. We’ll set good boundaries to not just keep things out, but to protect your energy and keep things in.
What you can expect in work with me:
- A sense of relief, truly
- Feeling more grounded, less reactive and angry
- More present with loved ones, despite working through challenges with me
- Building new relationships that feel safe and secure, and renovating old relationships that don’t
- Making decisions with clarity and confidence.
- Understanding your emotional world without judgment
- Deeper self-compassion and a kinder inner voice
- A nervous system that is less activated, and feelings feel less urgent and threatening as a result
- Feeling more connected and curious about the world again
My style is a bit different. I’m not a blank slate.
I’m an active, collaborative therapist.
I will:
- ask questions
- offer reflections
- engage with you in real time
- challenge and push back if needed
I participate in your sessions, which are so crucial to how you are navigating your life!
You’ll feel supported, understood, and not alone in the process.
So much growth happens in relationships, and your relationship with your therapist has so much space for healing to happen.
Therapy is an enduring gift to give yourself.
Start Feeling Better
Reach out today, and get answers to your questions. Looking forward to beginning our work together!
I offer experienced, compassionate, individual care.
I am a licensed and board certified creative arts therapist. I offer individual virtual psychotherapy across the State of New York via confidential telehealth, right in the comfort of your home.
Together, we will learn about what is troubling you and work to find sustainable solutions.
My approach focuses and finding and practicing new ways to respond to old feelings and thoughts. I am not a blank slate – I will ask questions and talk to you in session.
